You Don’t Know It All

By Dr. David Rex Orgen, Best-Selling Author of Dealing with ADHD, Living Above Diabetes, and Mental Health Expert

In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the expectation that we must know it all. From work pressures to family responsibilities, societal norms often push us to be experts in every aspect of our lives. However, the truth is, you don’t know it all, and that’s perfectly okay. In fact, it’s an essential realization for mental well-being and personal growth.

The Weight of Expectation

In today’s social media-driven society, the curated images of success, wealth, and happiness make us feel like we should have all the answers. We are bombarded by the idea that knowledge is power, and the more we know, the better our lives will be. But what happens when we inevitably face a situation we don’t know how to handle? The pressure to “have it all figured out” can lead to stress, anxiety, and even burnout.

Embracing Vulnerability

The first step toward freedom is accepting that we are not omniscient beings. Embracing our vulnerability allows us to connect more authentically with others. When we admit we don’t have all the answers, we open ourselves up to learning and growth. It’s through vulnerability that we gain access to new perspectives, wisdom, and insights. This is especially important when it comes to mental health.

As a mental health professional, I’ve seen the tremendous value in being honest about our limitations. Whether it’s dealing with ADHD, diabetes, or other health conditions, it’s okay not to know every aspect of the journey. What’s important is our willingness to seek help and be open to change. In fact, acknowledging that we don’t know it all is often the first step to healing.

The Power of Self-Compassion

We are often our harshest critics. Instead of being kind to ourselves when we don’t have all the answers, we tend to feel inadequate or unworthy. Yet, self-compassion is crucial to navigating the complexities of life. When we understand that it’s okay to not have all the knowledge, we can give ourselves grace and be patient with our own learning processes. Mental health thrives in environments of compassion, and this extends to how we treat ourselves.

The Role of Faith and Community

In moments of uncertainty, faith and community provide invaluable support. For me, as a leader in both ministry and mental health, I’ve seen firsthand how leaning on a higher power and surrounding ourselves with a strong, supportive community can ease the burden of feeling like we have to know it all. Faith reminds us that we are not alone and that growth is a journey, not a race. Communities that offer understanding and empathy can also provide a safe space for us to grow without judgment.

A Call for Growth, Not Perfection

The goal isn’t to be perfect or to know everything; the goal is to be open to growth. In my book Dealing with ADHD, I emphasize the importance of embracing where you are, rather than where you think you should be. Life is a continuous process of learning and unlearning, and that’s what makes it so beautiful.

Conclusion

So, let’s break free from the suffocating expectation that we must know it all. Instead, let’s give ourselves the permission to explore, learn, and grow without the pressure of perfection. Whether you’re managing your mental health, your career, or relationships, it’s essential to understand that not knowing it all is a part of the journey. In fact, it’s the very thing that makes life so full of possibility. Remember: you don’t know it all, and that’s a good thing.

Dr. David Rex Orgen is the best-selling author of Dealing with ADHD and Living Above Diabetes. He is a mental health expert dedicated to empowering individuals to live their best lives despite challenges.

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