I Wish I Could See Through What You’re Thinking About Me

By Dr. David Rex Orgen Best-Selling Author of Dealing with ADHD and Mental Health Expert

Have you ever found yourself wondering what others think about you? It’s a common experience—one rooted in our human desire for acceptance, understanding, and connection. The thought, “I wish I could see through what you’re thinking about me,” often crosses our minds in moments of vulnerability, curiosity, or even self-doubt.

As a mental health expert and author of Dealing with ADHD, I have encountered countless individuals who wrestle with this very thought. Whether in professional settings, social circles, or personal relationships, the fear of being misunderstood or judged can weigh heavily on our hearts. This emotional struggle often influences our self-esteem, decision-making, and interpersonal connections.

The Root of Our Curiosity

Why do we care so much about what others think? Psychologically, it stems from our innate need for belonging. We are social beings, wired for connection. The opinions of those around us can shape how we perceive ourselves, influencing both positive and negative self-views.

However, this curiosity can sometimes become overwhelming, leading to:

Overthinking and Anxiety: Constantly worrying about how others perceive us.

Self-Doubt: Questioning our worth based on perceived judgments.

People-Pleasing: Altering our behavior to gain approval.

The Danger of Assumptions

The truth is, we can never fully know what someone else is thinking unless they choose to express it. Yet, our minds often fill in the blanks with assumptions. This can lead to unnecessary stress, strained relationships, and self-sabotage.

Instead of seeking validation from others, it’s essential to cultivate self-awareness and emotional resilience.

Steps Toward Emotional Freedom

Here are some ways to break free from the need to “see through” others’ thoughts:

1. Practice Self-Compassion: Remind yourself that your worth isn’t defined by others’ opinions.
2. Open Communication: When in doubt, ask for clarity instead of assuming.
3. Focus on Your Values: Stay true to your principles rather than seeking approval.
4. Challenge Negative Thoughts: Replace assumptions with factual thinking.
5. Build Self-Confidence: Invest in personal growth and celebrate your strengths.

The Power of Mental Health Awareness

As someone passionate about mental health advocacy, I emphasize the importance of emotional intelligence and self-care. Understanding our own minds is far more empowering than trying to decipher someone else’s. In my book Dealing with ADHD, I share strategies for managing overthinking and improving self-esteem, especially for those navigating mental health challenges.

Final Thoughts

While the desire to know what others think is natural, true peace comes from self-acceptance. Instead of longing to “see through” someone’s thoughts, focus on being the best version of yourself.

Remember, you are enough—just as you are.

Dr. David Rex Orgen is a best-selling author, mental health expert, and speaker committed to inspiring personal growth and emotional well-being.

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