Singles: A Season, Not a Sentence

In many societies, singleness is treated as a problem that needs explanation. Questions come quickly. Assumptions follow. Pressure builds.

Dr. Orgen once worked with a woman who admitted, “I’m afraid I’ll choose anyone just to avoid being alone.” That fear, he notes, is more dangerous than singleness itself. Singleness is not a failure. It is a season of formation. It offers time to heal unresolved wounds, clarify values, and build emotional stability. When people rush through singleness, they often enter relationships unprepared, expecting partnership to fix internal emptiness.

Rumi wrote, “Why are you busy looking for love? Look at the barriers within yourself against it.” Singleness offers the space to remove those barriers. Many marriages struggle because individuals entered them without self-awareness. Marriage does not heal emotional wounds. It exposes them. Singleness, when embraced wisely, prepares people for healthier connections.

Solitude is often mistaken for loneliness. Yet solitude can be restorative. It allows individuals to develop identity, purpose, and self-respect. A healthy single person does not settle out of fear. They choose intentionally. Dr. Orgen emphasizes that worth is not defined by relationship status. Growth, peace, and emotional health matter far more than timelines imposed by society.

Call to Action

Singles are encouraged to honor this season. Invest in growth. Heal intentionally. Build a full life. When love arrives, it should meet wholeness, not desperation.

Written by Dr. David Rex Orgen, Best-Selling Author and International Mental Health Expert